Wanting to do the right thing..

I grew up always hearing what a wife should be. I never really heard what a husband should be. I ve been married for 8 years now and I am completely aggrevated about the whole deal. I want to be a wife and do what wives are suppose to do. But I find it very difficult because I dont feel like a wife. I feel more like a roommate and since my husband as not been working for the past year. I feel like a roommate thats footing all the bills with little to no benefits in return.