Ready to throw in the towel

Im thinking about callling it quits on this whole marriage thing. I really confuses me at times. I mean 8 yrs and I have yet to feel like a wifey. I watch in reluctant envy men who adore their wives, know her likes and dislikes, and loves her stinky draws. I work hard at working hard and still there is no satisfaction. I feel like I have an overgrown teenager still waiting to be burbed. All that crap that I said at the alter. I dont even mean it anymore. This is too much work. I feel that I am puttin in way more than I get. I should have listened to God in the first place when he said "daughter that is not your husband". God Knows Best.....